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Kassandra Lee & Carly Yashira

Former poly couple, Kass and Carly spill the chisme on transitioning from an open marriage to breaking up to whatever their current relationship is supposed to be.
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Call your ex and ask him how he's doing.
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You wouldn't do it, call him, call him, call it.
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What's up everyone?
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It's your girl Cassandra and it's your girl Carly.
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And we've been together for five years, five years today.
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We're playing a game called Spill the Cheese, man.
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We're gonna ask each other some questions and if we don't wanna
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answer, we're gonna eat a pepper and the spicier, the question
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the spicier, the pepper bring on the heat.
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Let's go and bring it on.
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What was the first thing that you noticed about me?
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Be honest.
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I mean, how honest can I be here?
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Be honest.
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I guess you wanna eat a pepper.
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No, no, no.
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Um No, I noticed your smile because the first thing you did
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to me was go, hey, and I was just like, OK, smile and energy and
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then sorry.
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OK.
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Who's a better cook?
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You or me?
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Come on, be honest.
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Honestly, I'm gonna say me, I feel like you're gonna fight
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me on that.
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You're right.
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Her bagel does come out better than mine.
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OK?
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Do not play me.
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Do not even play me.
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What's your biggest i with your partner.
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A k, probably when you eat sunflower seeds late at night.
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Um, and I find sunflower seeds for the rest of the year.
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You're exaggerating.
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Not an exaggeration.
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I'm inviting the whole crew to the house for them to find some
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flower seeds.
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What's the pettiest thing you've done to me?
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Oh, I want to hear this.
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I'd like to think.
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I'm not petty.
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I'm not really, I'm not really petty.
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I can't think of.
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Yeah.
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You make a pepper.
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You, I'm gonna have a pepper because I really can't think of
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a petty, I think, you know, a lot.
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I imagine that this probably isn't too bad because it's the
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first pepper.
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So it should be ok.
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Ok.
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It's not too bad.
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All right.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Well, when did you realize that you wanted to make our ruffle
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official?
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Oh, that's a spicy one.
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That's a spicy one.
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When I realized we were all feeling the same things.
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We were all falling for each other.
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We were all in love.
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When did you realize you were gay or bisexual?
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Damn.
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She met me?
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I don't know.
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I would say like, early twenties, that kind of, I was exploring
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and then maybe, you know what, I actually didn't know that
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I was bisexual until I met you.
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To be serious.
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When I met you, you told me you were straight?
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Yeah.
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I mean, because I had never, you know, I've been with a woman
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so I was, I was Right.
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And I'm, who is a better cook?
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Your mom or mine?
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Oh, my mom.
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Wow.
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She didn't, she didn't even eat a ruthless I told you, I don't
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like spicy.
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So I'm an open book today.
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Fannie.
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I love you.
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And your empanadas are amazing.
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But my mom can literally go into a kitchen and have no idea what
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she's going to cook and make something and it'll taste delicious
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She's like, that's the last time I make you empanadas.
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She knows how much I don't like peppers.
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So I think she understands who lost the most friends with the
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breakup.
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Oh, him or you him.
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That was a pretty easy one.
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If you had to choose one of your own friends to make out with
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who would you choose?
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Girl?
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What do you mean?
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I'm totally.
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Oh Are you?
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Oh, please?
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I mean, I've made out with a few already so I'm just spilling
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all the cheese man down jasmine.
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Why not a girl?
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Jazzy?
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Uh girl jazzy.
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Yeah, I'm totally fine with.
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I know, I know I knew it was a safe answer.
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It's a safe answer.
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All right.
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So the last picture you took.
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I OK.
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I mean, I can, I can show you all that.
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You know, she's lying.
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It's a cute selfie.
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So, yeah, a little selfie moment.
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My selfie.
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What annoys you the most about me.
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Yeah.
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If you don't wanna answer the question, you can just eat the
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pepper.
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Nothing is an answer.
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No.
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Yes.
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Take a bite of that pepper.
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You better, you better take a bigger bite.
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No, I didn't see the rule.
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That was not in the rule book.
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Ok.
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This is so fun for me.
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What was the last thing that we argued about?
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I'm gonna eat a pepper on this one because it's not that spicy
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is it?
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It's spicy.
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Oh, yeah.
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Oh, that's spicy.
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Oh, my God.
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You must be dying.
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Do you still communicate with our ex's family?
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No, I want to sometimes, like I get the urge to, they were my
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family for 10 years.
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So it just feels weird to not be able to reach out and ask how
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anyone's doing.
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So that kind of breaks my heart.
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Yeah.
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Who brings in more money?
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See, um, you do, what do you miss most about being in our ruffle
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I miss someone taking out the garbage.
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Uh, yeah, when we order food and if they can't figure out how
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to be buzzed up, someone will go down and bring it up.
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Uh, I just, uh, that's pretty much it.
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What's the last secret you told me?
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It will no longer be a secret if I don't remember.
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It does.
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I mean, I have to eat the pepper.
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I can't eat it.
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All right.
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All right.
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Why did I take such a big bite?
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Oh, my God.
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I wanna know.
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Tell me more.
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Oh, I could smell this.
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Oh, my God.
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She said.
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And from here.
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I smelled the spice.
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Oh, my God.
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I'm not.
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Ok.
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What is your biggest fear in this relationship do we have?
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I mean, well, you might start crying, you might start crying
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No, the biggest fear in this relationship is that my life would
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be too much for you and you'll realize you'll realize you would
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want something else.
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I don't know.
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Ok.
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So, your fear is losing me, losing it.
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It's my fear too.
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Ok.
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Ok.
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Oh, shoot.
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It's for both of us.
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What do you think is one of my low key nasty habits?
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So, what's my nasty habit?
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And I'm gonna tell them you're a nasty habit.
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So, tell me first.
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What are you gonna say?
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Ok.
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Wait, do you know what I'm gonna say?
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Ok.
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You want to say yours?
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What is it?
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Ah.
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Oh, man.
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Well, cheers.
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Oh my God.
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So spicy.
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Holy.
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Oh, no, no.
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Say it.
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Call your ex and ask him how he's doing.
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Are you?
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Yeah.
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What if I did it though?
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Is it worth this pepper?
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You wouldn't do it?
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Call him.
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Call him.
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Mhm.
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Oh.
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Oh, that would, I'm so glad you got that question and it wasn't
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me.
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Yeah.
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Oh, my God.
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Ok.
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Oh, no.
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First please.
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Is it a cousin?
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What was your worst memory of our relationship?
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The worst memory.
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Uh, I felt bad answering that question.
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I was always a pepper.
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Yeah, I need to put, yeah, it is torture.
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I hate it here.
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Never again.
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This is for both of us.
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Which one of my friends do you like the least, the least.
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I do not want to answer that question.
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That means you're gonna have to eat a peerage question.
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I don't wanna, I don't wanna name and all of my friends are so
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supportive.
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I love all of your friends.
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I like all of your friends.
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But there's one that I like a little less.
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Me too.
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Like I know which friend I'm thinking of.
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I just don't know if I wanna say the name you're gonna have to
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or you're gonna have to eat that horrible.
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Are you gonna answer the question?
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I'm gonna answer it.
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Really?
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Yeah.
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This doesn't mean I don't like you.
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I like you.
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Who are you about to say?
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I don't even know.
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I like you.
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I said it.
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OK?
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Damn.
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You really said it.
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I like her though.
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I know.
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I know you do like her.
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You do like her.
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All right.
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I'm doing the pepper.
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I cannot think of a name and I can't handle the pressure.
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OK?
09:53
All right.
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Go ahead and go for it.
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But for some reason, I don't know how you're able to even do
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it because I'm because it would be both answer and you or you
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both don't answer.
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You better say the name.
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I just took a, I just had a pepper who you don't like.
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No, I just need to know.
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I need to know look at this.
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You know, I thought you loved me.
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I do love you.
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I'm eating this small house but I cannot hang again with that
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If you had to choose one of your own friends to bring into our
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relationship, who would you choose y'all?
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I'm not gonna say any of our guy friends because they're gonna
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get, know how that's gonna go.
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I'm gonna go with our jazzy.
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What's up?
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What's up?
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Yeah.
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Would you be with us?
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We're asking, we're asking you to be around.
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Weird.
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That was, I was the most honest.
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I even took one because you didn't answer one.
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It's ok.
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You're a winner.
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But that was good though.
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I think you should eat one just because I had to eat one.
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I already had more peppers in you.
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I had more.
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I took one for the team.
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Now you win the job.