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We're here at the first episode of Girl.
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Let me tell you, I'm so excited.
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Live here at the NGL Mitu studios in Los Angeles.
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I know I've been saying I was going to move out here and I finally
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This is like a home.
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What do you say when you move into the house, home warming,
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home warming, warming?
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I don't know no words.
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I don't know any words.
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And you know, honestly, I think we were talking a little bit
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behind the scenes about how our goals for this year and one
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of my goals, I've been doing comedy for about five years now
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But I'm like, I want to do a podcast.
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I feel like I really want to get to get closer with my audience
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and just meet new people and meet new friends.
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And I think this is the perfect way for me to do that.
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That's because we were feeling the same way, weren't we girl
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How would it happen?
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I have no idea but it happened and then a blessing.
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I love it and God knows where it's going take what this is going
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I know it's going to go somewhere great because of a Pisces
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Moon and I can feel things.
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I want to give him a little bit of background of who we are.
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Um, I'll just give everybody an introduction.
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I've never really said my full name because I'm so nervous
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about people messing it up.
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I know it's a Dominican name.
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My mom made it up, you know how it goes.
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She put two names together, but everyone will call me glory
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And like I said, I've been doing stand up for five years.
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And I think this is a great because I feel like I'm really coming
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to my womanhood and I know the direction I'm going in.
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So I wanted to do a podcast especially centered around, you
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know, being a woman and, and just being able to give the next
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woman coming up or someone that didn't see themselves growing
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up, just some guidance, seeing them in the media or just seeing
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them open up about their lives and stuff like that, which is
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why I'm so excited that we're on the fierce by me through platform
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And because this is the place to do that, which is like being
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And especially if you're a woman that works, you're a hard
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worker, you're a career woman, you want to make your own money
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But you also care about love and relationships and you just
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honestly want balance in your life, which is what we're all
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trying to figure out.
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Just saying on the west side, born and raised in law, we got
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We're ready beefing.
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But it's not just for women though.
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I think that men can really benefit from stuff too.
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You know, for sure we have both sides.
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We need some empathy from the other side and feminine vibe
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because I feel like when they could come together, it's a beautiful
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thing when they can come together.
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I'm Jessica Flores is also born and raised here in Los Angeles
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and I work in the media radio hosting space.
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But I don't know, I've done a little bit of everything.
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I feel like we've done a little bit of everything.
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Yeah, I haven't even been on there that much to be honest.
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But you know what else?
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We're all Latina but we're so I feel like for a long time growing
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up Latina, I was like, that girl doesn't really look like me
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But so I feel like we all represent something different to
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And I really, really love that because I was telling somebody
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behind the scenes like this is the first time I felt really
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included in my Latini and it feels really nice that it's true
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Dominican Mexican and Colombian and we're all Americans
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Is that Spanish all a little bad.
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Never mind cut away right now.
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So I guess we could just get started.
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Girl, let me tell you, let me tell you, I'm going to be a little
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messy right now and I want to know why are you single?
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We're getting straight into it.
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You want to go first?
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I will say something.
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I, I'm dating somebody but I'm single until it's official
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No, no, no to the title.
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I feel as though you're single until somebody's like, you
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know, I want you to be my girl but single, meaning what for sure
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You're not seeing other people, for sure.
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He's not seeing other people.
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You guys have a, we haven't even spoke about that yet.
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So there no, so you can't hit up anybody else.
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So if somebody asks me on a date and I have even 2% of interest
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I'm going to go on a date but because there's no boundaries
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yet, but I want to know Ivana besides Gaia side.
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Like, what are your, why do you think you're single right now
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Because you beautiful woman, girl, so successful I single
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because I choose to be single.
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It's a, it's a, it's a choice because I know how I am.
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When I do, I am in a relationship and it's just really distracting
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and right now in my life, I'm 33 years old.
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I'm kind of like, you know, I'm working hard and I just want
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to focus and when I do like somebody and I am in a, like, it's
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It's just a little bit of a distraction.
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My moon is in cancer.
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So I can't go, I can't give in until I'm like, ok, for sure he's
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down and then I'll be like, ok, then your walls will come down
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Maybe my walls are majorly up.
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Is it because you've been hurt in the past or maybe you guys
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haven't respected the fact that you, you're a career woman
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You, you're out here, you're doing your thing.
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You need to put that priority.
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A lot of the times I've definitely um have planned to never
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Like you tell yourself like, yeah, right when you tell the
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When I'm the most in love and I can't control myself, I'm, I'm
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out, it's gonna run right now.
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It is run away, run away.
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But that has taught me the most because I have like, I break
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my own heart, like I literally leave and I break my heart.
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And it's because talk about the glow up like at the beginning
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I left because I wasn't ready to face the things that I was ready
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to face my insecurities with these guys.
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You know what I mean?
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Like I wasn't ready to be that woman yet.
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So I had to sit, look in the mirror and be like, why am I breaking
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my own heart and leaving in the middle of this?
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Nothing to do with him has all to do with me.
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And do you feel like you're at a different place in your life
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Now where if you love, you're not going to run away from it,
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you going to embrace it because I had to learn to love myself
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You know what I mean?
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And I didn't love myself when it was all these guys.
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A lot of the times in your early twenties, I was, you don't love
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You don't think you do.
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You think I did not like myself at all?
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I always say it wasn't until I started stand up that I started
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The moment I got on the stage, I was like, you know what I owned
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all my insecurities and I was like, I like me now.
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But before we go there, I still want to know why are you single
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are a problem because you are literally, I mean, ok, well,
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first off, OK, let's think about dating nowadays.
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There's so many amazing people especially and I don't want
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to single out a everyone's horrible.
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Well, I'm, I do feel like I agree with that.
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There are a lot of positive, but I will say I do think the climate
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that we're in now with social media and all that keeps a lot
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of people single just because loyalty is so rare.
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And then add that on top of the fact that we are from L A, you're
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from New York, New York, we're from hustle areas like that
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Urban areas, those urban areas in the US where a lot of the times
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it's about the priority is always gonna be work.
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It's gonna be your job, especially for women, especially
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when you're a career woman.
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I found myself failing in relationships over and over again
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because it came down to, well, my job comes number one because
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I wasn't in a place in my life where I wanted to really actually
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find my life partner.
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So I feel like, yeah, I neglected myself.
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I neglected a lot of those early relationships for my career
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But did it make me happy at the end of the day?
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No, I accomplished a lot of things but it didn't make me happy
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Do you feel like you want a relationship right now?
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Do you feel lonely a little bit?
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I love being single.
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I don't mind being alone.
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I love being alone in my home and I love that piece and I wouldn't
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say I'm lonely but it's nice having a man.
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It's nice having a companion.
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It's nice having somebody that can step in and be that everything
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I mean, that's nice too.
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Of course, it's super nice.
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But I just, I love a man that can complement your life is a beautiful
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And that's the hard part.
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They're not complimenting our lives because our lives are
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complicated because I've had great guys.
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I love the, I have a theory about what's going on over here.
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So like as women at a young age, we're taught how to be literally
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You have little babies in the playground.
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We're taught how to take care how to love how to nurture.
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Boys are taught how to like shoot guns and fight and play sports
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that there is zero unless they have a father.
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That's a good example of how to be a protector, provider, a
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lover, all these things to a woman.
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Like it's really hard for a man to know how to be a partner, for
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You know what I mean?
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Like they don't get taught that.
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So I think a lot of us in this day and age because we're independent
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and we're kind of like becoming our own man.
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A lot of us like especially us three, I feel from the energy
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like we have a lot of masculinity and femininity and it's like
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we're becoming our own man because a lot of the men aren't showing
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up in their divine masculine.
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You know what I mean?
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That's what is no more, I cannot be my own man.
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The one to hang the art.
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That's so it's an apartment and not have a man that's when you
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I need someone to hang with these curtains, but there's, there's
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I just want to be honest, I think I'm single because I might
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be a little bit of a problem.
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Like I'm super hyper independent when I'm not in a relationship
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When I'm in a relationship, I just get really nervous.
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I need to know where you are.
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I need to know what's going on.
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You have transition.
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I think that's what it is.
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But it's also this age of social media where it's like, I normally
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I hate this narrative that women are in competition with
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But, you know, sometimes you see a man following some pretty
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I'm like, I don't look like that and I get a little nervous any
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time the follower account goes up, I'm like, are you with that
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But also you see sometimes you see the guy that you like liking
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pictures of girls that are maybe half naked.
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But then when you dress like that, it's an issue and I'm like
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well, you're liking the times that happens to me all the time
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that happened to you.
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I've never had that.
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I don't think guys have ever tried to control what I wear, but
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they're liking pictures of girls that we significantly less
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I mean, if I know if I dress like that, it would definitely be
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Well, I went on a date, you know, I like to look, well, we are
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getting to know each other.
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Love the friendship so far already.
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Um, when I go on dates I like to dress up.
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You know, my little, like I always say, I'm going to show something
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like a little bit of cleavage.
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You know, just for me.
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But I went on a date with a guy and he told me that it was attracting
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too much attention to the table.
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I'm like, but I saw you.
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That means this was your first date?
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No, we've been together for a while.
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Why is he distracted?
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Why is he looking at everyone else?
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And not like, I don't know, but it made me feel bad because I
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actually got dressed up because I wanted to look cute for him
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and I was like, well, this is very oxymoronic flag but it doesn't
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So dating, we're all single.
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We're looking for new men.
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First thing you look at shoes.
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What does a man's shoe say?
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And I know it, it's not life and death but it's exact like the
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second thing you see a guy's shoe, you know, whether you are
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gonna give it a second look or not like, oh for me.
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Yeah, like, I mean, not in a bad way.
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We're not like, you know, it's not cut throat but I, I like,
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that's not my vibe or that's my vibe.
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You know what I mean?
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It also has to do with the whole look, it's the shoe to me.
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It's like the whole look like, what are you imagining how you're
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But like, I mean, don't get me wrong.
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I'm not that superficial but I'm just saying it does make a
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difference how dirty it is, how clean they are.
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Like it says a lot about somebody.
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It's like having dirty nails.
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Like if a guy from nails is a big deal, like hands and nails are
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a big deal because if the guy's hands, the nails are jagged
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with dirt underneath, like he's obviously not doing anything
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That's not for a lot of things, for many reasons.
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It's what I'm saying is shoes do play a part.
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You know what I mean?
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What kind of shoes when you're describing the shoe?
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I'm getting converse is that, you know, no, I'm saying like
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the guy you're clearly describing is wearing converse, but
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I don't know what shoe is he wearing.
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I'm just like high top converse like that.
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This is a good, I like a converse.
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You like converse guys.
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It's more like I haven't really, I was in middle school when
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I was dating men that were wearing, I haven't dated a grown
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man wearing, I just want to say I say this respectfully.
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I haven't dated a grown man wearing Converse but you're from
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I know you guys wear yours and it's Air Force ones, whites,
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the black ones are not ok.
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That man is a, it's just not ok.
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I actually did, you know, I do a bunch of comedies and this guy
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was talking about how he only wears black Air Force once.
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I like that makes a lot of sense.
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Your whole personality is black.
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That's not a good personality like that man is going to rob
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So now, you know, a red flag is all black flag.
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I just feel like my guys, I just stay true, true.
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And that's why I'm single because there's no New Yorkers here
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Men in L A are in New York people, the energy.
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East coast, west coast energy.
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I'm learning from you ladies where I'm like, wow, we're all
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so strong but so different.
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I have never thought I'm talking about sneakers drunk.
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I want to get to know you.
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But I never, the guys in, in New York there are always air force
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What's your preference?
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Well, you know, it's like for the occasion.
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Do not go on a date with me on Tim's, that's not ok.
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But I don't know the politics behind the thing in New York.
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The first date for New York, like a white, I guess like Clarks
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Those are like dress shoes.
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I would never take you for a girl.
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I do like a good clark.
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I don't even know what Clarks are, is outside.
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What's your, what are we wearing?
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Listen, if he's wearing cowboy boots that have a little bit
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I've never did a man that was in the wrong.
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I'm aware of this but I'm into cowboy boots and then, yeah,
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I like clinch Jordans.
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But cowboy boot just does it for you for me.
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I don't even care if they're a little dirty.
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It's what about cowboy boots that turned you on about it?
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I'm really curious, I think has to do with regional and I can't
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see my current, the guy that I'm in love with.
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If he shows up a cowboy boots, we're going to have a conversation
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See anybody from New York walking around New York in places
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that's not going to be a thing or even, well, LA a little bit
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because a lot of Mexican culture, you know, they're part of
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the rodeos and stuff.
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That's probably why you're single because there's no guys
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around here wearing cowboy boots.
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There's not very many PICO Rivera Rivera, they got the cowboy
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What is, that is an event that happens here in L A.
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It's like Mexican Banda.
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Everybody's wearing cowboy boots out there.
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Everybody, you know what?
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I just feel like we're all super Latina.
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And I think the region in which we grew up in reinforces this
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is a kind of because this is what we saw growing up.
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Did you see cowboy boots growing up?
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So this theory is because I were going to my little Pueblo in
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Mexico my whole life.
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She's like a ranch girl.
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It's a girl born in the city for me.
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We all went to, for the most part public school.
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Every Easter we got our refund checks.
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We all got air force ones and I'm still, I think every New Yorker
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is still living out that dream.
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I'm reliving tax season or whatever, but I just have never
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This is so interesting to me.
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Where did that come from?
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Thank you for the, not the, not the, you know, that goes like
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No, I just like a nice normal cowboy boot.
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Dominican, I can say do not cowboy boos, but Dominican men
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love these very strong business, business class down here
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and like business casual.
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My question is what's more important to you, the shoe or their
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Oh bitch, you got me.
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What is more important?
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I'm going to say something controversial to you, but I don't
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know too much about sign.
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So I'm going to be like, ok and that's what we're learning.
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That's what we're learning.
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That's where I live in the sign.
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That's a really good question.
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Their sign for sure is more important to me.
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You have signs that are off limits.
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I'm so sorry for anyone listening.
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But I think Scorpio, I say that because don't get me wrong.
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I think Scorpios are really sexy but there's something like
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a little too mysterious and it's a little, I don't know who
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You know what I mean?
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I don't really know where you are and then one day you just don't
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That's the same experience I had with every Scorpio.
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They're just very cut off.
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If they're not down, they know it's too artistic.
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They're so mysterious.
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It's like a personality to be like nobody really knows me a
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I've taken it a few Scorpios.
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It's the same thing.
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So, what are your signs?
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What is your actual sign?
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I've dated a Gemini and Gemini.
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Gemini men, not women because I adore you.
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You're Gemini woman and I know it's a different thing.
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But the one Gemini actually I dated two Gemini men.
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I'm still recovering and this was years ago.
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But yeah, I mean, Geminis look, you, you know, they have the
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reputation of being a little bit, you know, there's two sides
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of them, that whole thing.
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That's the only thing I really know about it.
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And I can say from experience, I did experience that with this
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Probably the craziest.
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It wasn't even a relationship.
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It was a situationship.
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I hate to say that, but that's the truth.
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We only talked for like a couple of months or whatever, craziest
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whirlwind of a thing.
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I don't even know what to say about.
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Like, I don't have, tell me what happened.
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Did he love bomb you and then completely switched up.
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That's a Gemini man.
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You said what I what I'm going through right now.
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So this person who was a Gemini man, loved bomb.
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Did he say he wanted to marry you?
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Oh, that's every Gemini they wanna marry you within a month
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That was the first love bombing is when right at the beginning
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a guy is like showering you with like I like you, I need you giving
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you flowers like literally too much and a girl because we are
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We're in, it's amazing.
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But then later it becomes like it's just fake, it's not real
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And then the real selves come to the forefront when you guys
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are in private and then they display a completely different
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Like I'm not taking this personal, I'm talking about the one
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man that I dated that happened to be Gemini.
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But like I said in the three months, I don't think I've ever
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been through a crazier experience in my life with a man and
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he would always say, oh, I'm Gemini.
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I Gemini and stuff like that.
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And I'm like, oh my God.
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The thing about Geminis is that I love them because they're
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so fun and really passionate.
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But then it could switch in the flip of like what is it?
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I don't, I don't have good point.
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It switches and what I need as a Libra because I need, I need
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I need a man that's really like the Libra and Gemini is supposed
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No, we are for females.
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I love, I love Gemini feel my roommate is a Gemini like we just
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We're both air sign so we flow, we're cool.
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But for some reason for a man, I need like a like an earth sign
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Somebody that keeps me, the more you mature, the more you realize
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the best sign to date is probably a Capricorn man because they
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love money and they'll take care of you and they'll just put
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But yeah, I would agree.
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Even though you just drag Gemini men, they are the worst sign
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So I feel like I know you made it later.
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We're single ladies better.
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Capricorn Capricorn Gemini.
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This is a good balance.
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If it's an earth sign, that's a Capricorn Torres Virgo.
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He is a horrible man but he's reliable.
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Yeah, he will pay the bills.
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I'm letting you know.
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Fire signs, Aries Leo Sagittarius love to argue if you want
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to just argue with somebody.
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Libra Gemini and Aquarius.
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If you don't want commitment and you want to be in this situation
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That's so where's the positive, the water signs?
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That's Pisces Scorpio and Cancer.
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Actually, I would say the best boyfriend is prior cancer because
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they will just stay in their relationship like they'll never
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break up with you because a personal thing, personal thing
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You think my own experience?
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I mean, a little bit anyways.
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No, but I, I just hate, I hate Geminis too.
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Both of the people that, the reason why I'm a comedian is because
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of Scorpios and Geminis.
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Yeah, I hate my own sign.
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Um Do you guys believe in soul mates?
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And I believe we're so dumb.
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Let me explain this though.
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I feel like there isn't one soulmate per person.
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There are so many people, so many people you could be compatible
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with and have an amazing life with where you guys align on so
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I think there's multiple soulmates and it's just your job
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to really genuinely first off elevate as a person and then
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attract somebody that meets you at that point.
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You know what I mean?
21:21
Because you're only gonna attract how good of a person you
21:23
Like you're only gonna, whatever wavelength you're operating
21:26
on, you're only gonna be able to attract that type of person
21:29
because you guys are gonna understand how you guys are functioning
21:31
I feel like your best friends are your soul mates.
21:33
And there are a lot of women like you think about how close we
21:36
Like we sit, we talk about our feelings all the time and we're
21:40
there for each other.
21:41
Even if we do stupid things.
21:42
It's like unconditional love as soulmates.
21:44
That's what we also want in a man.
21:46
But it's hard to find that I would say as I get older, I realize
21:49
the most important relationships are the ones that I have
21:52
Those are the ones that make me the happiest soulmate and everybody
21:55
that's brought trauma to my life has been a man.
21:59
So sorry this listen to play on that trauma in your life.
22:06
I feel that every relationship I've been in has been hard and
22:10
challenging, but they polish you into like the woman you're
22:13
If you going through, you get heartbroken, then you will never
22:17
improve on yourself.
22:18
And you're right and that's great and we sound wonderful now
22:21
because I think all of us aren't going when you're going to
22:23
that break and you can't get off that bed.
22:25
So we're on the other side.
22:27
But like literally this time last year, I can pull up pictures
22:31
I have a whole folder of them on my phone.
22:33
This time last year, I will say this, I got jumped at a restaurant
22:39
This is a real story.
22:40
I was, why did you tell us that just broken up with somebody
22:43
after a year of like really?
22:44
To a toxic thing that I never thought I at 32 years old I could
22:47
be in and then I was just like this bad vibe, energy, dark vibes
22:52
And I was at my sister's birthday, random altercation.
22:56
Our a sweater was at the table and 12 girls, I think we were in
22:59
They were definitely like tat tat it all over.
23:01
Not that it matters but like in their neck, whatever, they
23:03
all jumped me because I, because I was trying to get the sweater
23:06
and they're like, that's not yours.
23:07
And I was in my bed for like a month concussion and I was like
23:11
over a guy over, no.
23:13
Oh this is just out of the blue.
23:14
But I was saying that this time last year, over, over like the
23:17
heartbreak and I, I feel like I attracted it even though like
23:21
I was in a low vibrational thing that somehow I got involved
23:24
So I was this year, this time last year, I was literally in bed
23:27
sitting like just healing myself from all the toxicity that
23:30
I went through and not just that and then getting beat up by
23:33
like who does that in L A?
23:38
Not at 32 32 in my twenties.
23:43
This is a great way to learn more about each other.
23:45
Who here has been jumped.
23:47
You have, you've been doing girl?
23:51
But what it was my own fault.
23:55
Did you jump them or?
23:57
One thing I can appreciate is you own your shit, girl.
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You own all of them.
24:01
I've grown up so much.
24:02
I'm going to be in my Jesus year like I am owning everything
24:06
I see is the best year I got jumped twice.
24:10
Yeah, but you don't have to go into that where I was going where
24:14
I was going with it is that you said that now we're on the other
24:16
side, right on the other side.
24:18
Like from where I was last year at this point to where I am now
24:21
it took a lot of freaking work.
24:23
Like I took a lot of, I feel like by myself and sitting and crying
24:27
and like looking in the mirror like what's going on?
24:29
Like Yvonne, like what's going on?
24:31
Why am I attracting this?
24:32
Like, why am I OK with this?
24:34
Like and staying in a relationship that I know is not for me
24:36
but like I'm trying to fix it.
24:38
It's like the resisting thing, right?
24:41
In relationships that we know are not going on.
24:44
Because I don't know if I'm in one of those situations right
24:47
now, but I'm like, he feels like a soulmate So I think that's
24:50
the thing about the soulmate story where I'm like, I'm telling
24:52
myself this narrative.
24:53
This is my soulmate.
24:54
This is my soulmate, but I'm not completely happy.
24:57
But I feel like on the other side, if I just wait a little bit
25:00
longer, he's going to, and I've been, to be honest, I've been
25:02
waiting for two years.
25:03
I feel like he's going to get it together.
25:05
And I think that a woman's intuition is really on point.
25:08
And it takes a lot of experience though.
25:10
Your intuition, you feel like your intuition is telling you
25:12
this is my intuition is telling me 100% is my soul mate.
25:16
But my brain is like, maybe not right now.
25:20
That's exactly what it is.
25:21
Is it not right now because of you or because of, because of
25:24
But also maybe sometimes, you know, we have things happening
25:26
for us and we don't like, I could never really be in a relationship
25:29
I'm bi, you have a humble in New York.
25:33
I'm, it's my new personality.
25:35
I'm bi coasts and yeah, I'm working, I'm doing stand up, I'm
25:40
out every single night and maybe God or the universe, whatever
25:43
you believe in doesn't want me to be in a relationship.
25:45
And I just, I want to be with this person, but I like it doesn't
25:48
even make sense right now.
25:49
What I've learned is if you have to force something or if there's
25:52
any resistance or you're not feeling good.
25:54
It's just not the time you have to really respect divine timing
25:59
Like that's how I feel.
26:00
And it takes a while to learn that because you like, if you get
26:03
heartbroken your ego is like, what the fuck a guy?
26:05
He's the one for me.
26:05
But in reality it's like, no, he's not.
26:07
If he was, he would be, it would be easy.
26:10
We do, we have effects.
26:14
Like the one thing, my dad, my dad has three daughters and he's
26:17
like, not that he's not protective dad.
26:18
He's very, he just has like a couple of things.
26:20
Like when it comes to any guy that I date, he'll say one thing
26:24
like, oh, he's nice.
26:27
I'm gonna him that things you say when, you know, you know,
26:32
You know, he said love is easy when it's really meant for you
26:37
And I also wanted to add to that when people say you need to work
26:40
on a relationship, it's work, work, meaning two people are
26:44
Not just one person because, and that's just forcing it and
26:47
that's just forcing something that's maybe not for you.
26:49
I think when it's work it's like, it's not going to be easy.
26:51
But if both people, both parties, the boy and the girl are like
26:55
I am going to stand by your side, let's communicate.
26:58
I'm not really happy.
26:59
You're not really happy.
27:00
That's when the real work begins.
27:01
But it takes two people.
27:04
I think the work is you have to be responsible for yourself
27:07
I think part of the issue that I'm having with this, a Gemini
27:10
man is I should have said that, but I'm not making him famous
27:13
anyways, the Gemini man is that I feel like I'm working on myself
27:16
I'd be, generally I'd be talking on stage about my Yeah, I've
27:20
been doing all that stuff but I feel like I'm doing both of our
27:22
homeworks and it's like you have to, being a human being is
27:24
constant work and just to not put the gender on it like we both
27:28
need to work like even in friendship, like the reason why my
27:30
friendships work now is because I know where I went bad as a
27:33
bad friend and now I'm able to say and to comment on that.
27:36
I feel like a lot of guys just don't have the opportunity to
27:39
talk about their feelings like they're not sitting around
27:41
like us like, so how do you feel?
27:44
They're like, what's up with?
27:45
Watch the game, whatever I'm being ty right now.
27:47
But the truth is they never were raised to be super comfortable
27:50
with their emotions.
27:51
So how are they going to know how to even like in a like in a real
27:55
Like they're gonna sit down in a journal on the beach and, like
27:57
have meditation music.
27:59
Yeah, exactly what you should be doing.
28:00
But that's what we are here is like, I think that we can really
28:02
influence a man to be their best, best version.
28:04
But I don't want to do his homework.
28:06
I've been doing that all my life.
28:07
We can leave everyone's homework.
28:08
We can lead the horse to water.
28:10
And if they're down, they could drink it.
28:11
If they're not, they're not for you.
28:13
You can make the horse drink.
28:15
What's the metaphor?
28:16
You can't make him drink water.
28:17
You can leave the horse to water, but you can't force him to
28:20
So I wanna just recap.
28:22
So you like cowboy boots?
28:26
I like air force ones.
28:27
And what's your preferred sneaker?
28:29
We never got to the bottom of that.
28:31
I don't know if I was going to give you converse anyways, I think
28:34
No, no, I think Jordan Jordan a nice Jordan.
28:39
I'm done for many things.
28:41
I don't discriminate.
28:42
And then we, we'll go on a triple date and the man's wearing
28:46
Palo shoes and you're like that and you're going to roast him
28:48
you know, so we got the shoes, we got our signs, we got soul
28:53
I kind of want to know more about where we are in just in our journeys
28:58
We're all really great.
28:59
Career, woman, career driven.
29:02
I can't speak English sometimes I'm like you stirring.
29:07
Yeah, like you're doing acting, you're a host.
29:11
Like I want to talk about how did you get here?
29:13
You're talking about this time last year, you were in a really
29:15
How did you get out?
29:17
Your life is completely different totally.
29:19
And it's because for the first time I was like, ok, I'm choosing
29:21
myself, like, I'm going to stop putting all my energy in this
29:24
man and all the problems that we're dealing with and focusing
29:27
I remember I was laying in bed with a concussion, black eye
29:30
My mom goes, did you take pictures?
29:32
We'll put, I'll show you we're not putting that up.
29:34
I picked it was out of but it was like a sign.
29:38
It was like, I feel like in order to evolve, like sometimes
29:41
you have to really hit rock bottom to be like, ok, let's go for
29:45
That was one like I have had a few, but that was one that was ok
29:48
You know what Ivan, what are you doing?
29:49
Wasting your time with something that's not serving you.
29:52
Like wake up and I was in bed, my mom and I'm going to Europe and
29:55
I was going to Europe in the summer and mom was like, you know
29:56
what, this summer when we're in Europe, why don't you take
29:59
The, the theater class in London?
30:01
And I was like, mom, thank you.
30:03
I ended up taking the class in London for a month and like you've
30:06
changed me, got my confidence back.
30:08
I started doing all the work healing therapy.
30:10
It like just focusing on taking all that 80% of energy that
30:14
was focusing on a man and put it all in myself and like it, it
30:17
sounds selfish, but in reality, it's like in order to love
30:21
anybody else, you have to fill your cup up first.
30:23
You know what I mean?
30:24
You have to learn that until again my thirties that like you
30:27
really can't give other people unless you feel full because
30:29
you're gonna always be drained.
30:30
Like the math is not gonna math.
30:31
And you know what, five years ago, three years ago when I was
30:34
also my first heartbreak, I googled like, how do I love myself
30:37
I literally googled it because I didn't know what that meant
30:41
You know, I hate when people give you this missive advice.
30:43
Like you need to love yourself, but nobody really knows what
30:47
So to you, what does that look like to love yourself?
30:49
What did you do to do that?
30:51
I'm curious because everybody's different.
30:53
You know, I really, you know what I had to do, which was really
30:56
I had to fix the inner monologue that I had.
30:58
I had a really nasty monologue and sometimes it comes back
31:01
it's like you're not good enough or whatever.
31:03
And I had to because of stand up, stand up is so subjective.
31:06
You really need to be so confident, like, kind of a little delusional
31:10
that everything is going to work out.
31:12
And I was like, I have to just really believe him.
31:13
I don't have any other option.
31:16
I was pretty much about to be evicted from my crib.
31:19
It was right before the pandemic came and I was like, I need
31:21
to, I need to figure it.
31:22
I had no option but to love myself.
31:25
Well, I got this thing from the government called unemployment
31:28
That was type one that helps a lot with my career.
31:34
Thank you so much, America.
31:38
Thank you for your contribution.
31:39
I'll tell you one thing I Googled recently.
31:41
Does drinking affect a man's testosterone?
31:46
Does it, does, it does, I can see that it does, it makes it lower
31:51
it lowers the testosterone of a man if they drink a lot.
31:54
I don't even know what I Googled.
31:56
I Googled is Tessa Thompson dating Pedro Pascal.
32:01
It came off my tiktok, my business.
32:03
I think my last one was just warm water and lemon salt.
32:07
Is that good for you?
32:09
It's the best for you.
32:10
You are healthy, warm water with lemon and salt, good for you
32:13
And it is everybody that's watching this warm water with lemon
32:18
I guess I'm really into relationships.
32:23
I wanted to see a timeline of the relationship I was very invested
32:30
I'm pretty sure I know Jen Shah.
32:33
I wanted to know what she did on the housewives.
32:36
Sometimes I say things in the news.
32:38
I'm like, why is this such a big deal?
32:40
So I wanted to know what she did.
32:42
Um, oh, I looked up at the Gwyneth Paltrow thing.
32:48
I don't know why she's on trial.
32:49
She's on trial because somebody, somebody, um, somebody
32:53
said that she was reckless skiing and hit, she hit them and
32:56
now, you know, he, he's going through it.
32:59
Thank you for the background.
33:00
I was like, the whole scandal.
33:02
That's the whole thing.
33:03
I was like, why are you in court with this big ass turtleneck
33:05
But I wanted to bring up something because I know, oh, sorry
33:10
I was like, ok, because I was thinking about what you guys
33:12
were talking about in regards to like your career and especially
33:14
like you because, well, actually both of you guys equally
33:18
something that's really big that I know like career women
33:20
that work in the entertainment space to whatever capacity
33:22
because you're an actress, you're so, you're a lot of things
33:25
you're obviously a comedian and a producer and you do all
33:27
So, like imposture syndrome for me has been something that
33:29
I've struggled with since the beginning.
33:32
And it's crazy because I've been in my business for about 10
33:35
And I still feel a sense of like I walk into a room, I still feel
33:38
like I'm an intern like I need to prove myself, I'm going to
33:41
show my best face forward.
33:43
Like I could never, I could never imagine myself walking into
33:45
a room and just feeling like, yeah, I deserve to be here.
33:49
I know I deserve to be here.
33:50
But I always know every time I get a new project or gig, I need
33:53
to earn my stripes, I need to go in there and put my best foot
33:56
How do you guys deal with the imposter syndrome of like, that's
33:59
kind of what we deal with a lot of the times every time we get
34:01
a new gig that it's a really good topic because I have felt that
34:04
for a long time and not until last year, did I get to say I'm an
34:09
actress and I'm 33 years old because I wanted to earn saying
34:13
that, you know what I mean?
34:14
Like I didn't want to be like, I'm an actress because in my heart
34:16
But in order to say that I was, I had to kind of have like a job
34:21
underneath my belt, you know, and it's kind of like it comes
34:23
with the confidence, it comes with the confidence of being
34:25
like I deserve to be here.
34:27
I know I worked my butt off to be here and I'm going to own it.
34:30
But it takes, that comes with self love too.
34:33
Like it's all part of it.
34:34
You know, it's all part of it and language, how important is
34:36
like language because think about it, if I walk into a room
34:39
and say, you know what I want to be a host, I want to be a radio
34:43
You're putting out into the universe you want to.
34:44
But what about you walk into a room and say I am an actress.
34:50
You're already embodying that and the power of God and the
34:53
power of the universe is the universe.
34:58
When I first started, I decided I was going to be delusional
35:01
That's how I found confidence.
35:03
You need that realize that nobody knows what they're doing
35:07
You're like, OK, um I'm gonna do the same thing but just be better
35:10
at it like nobody, nobody, there's somebody at every job that
35:13
doesn't know what the fuck they're doing at the beginning
35:15
There, there might be somebody here at the beginning I will
35:23
say is that what makes you like not being posted anymore is
35:26
when you have enough experience and you are prepared that
35:29
you have the confidence to be like, yo, I deserve like I was
35:35
I think sometimes I, especially as women of color, we put a
35:38
lot of extra, extra hard out of the criticism on ourselves
35:43
What's that word where you're hurting yourself.
35:45
I don't know, you put a lot of criticism weight on.
35:50
We need to earn this thing where there.
35:52
So when I first started sharing them in my planner every year
35:55
I start with a quote and my year was like, have as much confidence
35:58
And let me tell you, I'm doing so much better than in comedy
36:00
Like I didn't even know this whole shit of it.
36:04
I can't believe I'm here.
36:06
It wasn't until I'm about to be five years into comedy in a few
36:09
And I'm like, yo, I'm a dead ass comedian.
36:13
So I think part of it is you have to be a little delusional.
36:16
That might be better.
36:17
You have to believe, to be crazy enough to believe in yourself
36:20
so much that you're like, I'm about to take this task on why
36:26
They told you that you an actress who said that, like, how many
36:28
times have you looked on the TV?
36:30
And, and look at them and say, you know what I know I can do that
36:33
sometimes even better or just as good.
36:36
And it's like, why am I not there?
36:38
Well, they actually have confidence and they actually put
36:41
themselves in a position to be there.
36:43
And also I think a little bit and this might be tangential.
36:47
But I'm also like, I'm, I'm about to be 33.
36:50
I'm trying to find a nice way to say I'm an old bitch.
36:52
I feel old and I'm like, I really need to, I don't have no more
36:56
Like, if I was in my twenties I could play around with like,
36:58
I'm like, no, this is who I am.
36:59
This is what I'm doing.
37:00
And I've also done so much of what I don't want to do that.
37:02
I'm like, oh, I'm going to be doing this forever.
37:04
So I think, I guess it's experience and it's experience with
37:07
everything with everyone.
37:08
It's like you need to have like 10 years, not 10 years, but under
37:11
your belt to be like, I'm an expert in those 10 years for the
37:14
majority of our lives were in our twenties, which we were also
37:19
And I will say like I said, a lot of my earlier relationships
37:23
failed because I was in my selfish era, which is me.
37:27
I remember one of my first boyfriends.
37:29
Actually, my first real boyfriend broke up with me and I was
37:35
I was a freshman in college and I could not even keep my eyes
37:38
open from how exhausted I was.
37:39
I was working at Univision at 4 a.m. in the morning producing
37:46
I mean, like I was averaging three hours of sleep and he was
37:48
like yelling at me like Jess Jess, like I'm ending things with
37:52
Like all you do is work, you have no time for me.
37:53
And I could not physically even stay awake while he was breaking
37:57
Now, I don't, I don't.
38:04
Well, we're so cool.
38:05
Well, we're not talking.
38:06
I think I'm doing the opposite now.
38:07
I think now I'm for sure of myself before I was such a rom com
38:10
Like, I want to get married.
38:12
I want to be in love because it's just like I want to buy a house
38:15
I heard it was hard but yeah, I'm renting, right.
38:19
I heard it was hard.
38:20
But I think now in my selfish era where it's like I want to get
38:25
my comedy special and no one's going to stop me from doing that
38:27
And I know when I'm in a relationship, I'd be so romantic.
38:30
I won't even go to, I'll tell you one thing.
38:32
There's also relationships that if you meet somebody, you
38:36
guys can really glow up together.
38:38
There is somebody that they can meet you on the same level.
38:41
I mean, I don't know, I'm guessing you can't just be giving
38:44
that advice and you don't have to.
38:47
I heard in the movie and that's the keyword in that movie.
38:52
This is not my theory.
38:53
This is my perspective.
38:54
If you're in your twenties and you're still in your trying
38:57
to find yourself selfish era in your finding your purpose
39:00
era, you guys can do that together.
39:02
But if you're in your thirties and you're still finding yourself
39:04
and you want me to help you do that or grow up with you?
39:08
Do you still feel like you have imposter syndrome?
39:11
Now, after all, I have imposter syndrome because I know I can
39:14
do, I can go in and do a job really well.
39:16
And I know I'm going to be professional and as easy to work with
39:19
But I walk in every single time with pressure on myself.
39:22
I think that's a beautiful thing and I honestly think about
39:26
And the minute that you walk into a room and you don't care about
39:29
doing good with your job, then find another job.
39:31
You're in the wrong room.
39:32
You can stand up if you're nervous before you go on stage.
39:34
That's a good thing.
39:35
Same with acting, you're nervous.
39:36
That means you care, the more nervous I am, the more I'm like
39:40
yo, I really care about that.
39:42
You know, when you're with a guy that you really like, you can't
39:45
even be yourself because you're so nervous.
39:46
Why is that a thing?
39:48
That is such a thing?
39:49
I heard that wasn't your soulmate.
39:50
If you have flies, motherfuckers may make you show up every
39:52
day on the internet.
39:53
But I heard that wasn't your soulmate truthfully because
39:54
there was a guy that I was kind of talking to not too, too long
39:57
ago, but I couldn't even be myself.
40:01
I'm not going to come.
40:04
He said no nicknames yet there was no nickname.
40:08
It was nothing at all serious by any means.
40:10
However, I remember we talked on the phone a couple of times
40:13
and I was like, why am I not being myself?
40:17
I'm like, see, this is what I say, I've been.
40:22
You should feel like this person is your best friend, not even
40:25
off the bad, but it's like, yo, I feel comfortable.
40:26
I can eat my chicken wings in front of you.
40:28
If you can't eat in front of this man, that's not your man.
40:32
The problem is I can eat in front of any man.
40:34
I can eat in front of the president of the United States.
40:36
I don't care if you say that.
40:38
Now, let's pull him up.
40:41
I eat chicken wings in Joe right now.
40:44
I think you should feel like that person is your friend and
40:47
that's why I don't like and this might be another tangent.
40:50
Everyone should know that.
40:52
But that's why I don't like, I don't like walking on the park
40:55
dates, but I don't like going on a dinner date on the first date
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because it's too much pressure.
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I'm going to be honest sometimes I don't know what fork to use
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No, it's the whole thing.
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I, it's just like etiquette.
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I don't like that very expensive fancy dinner when he las I
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I don't want you to lobster date on the first date.
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But when I do it's just like, what, what's the really fancy
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Because I'm not even looking for that type of man if you have
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It's not my type of man.
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I like a blue collar man.
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You want that man that earned his late in.
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I mean, I think that's easy to find.
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You can find a blue collar man.
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I think you need to go to New York.
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I promise you he's there.
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Yeah, your blue collar man.
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Fort Knox is Fort Knox.
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I don't know anything about geography either.
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Is Fort Knox, Florida, is it, this is what we have Google for
42:03
Let's go Fort Worth I feel like is definitely more my Fort Worth
42:08
Is it a part of history?
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That's where we're taking our girls trip.
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No, I'm down and then we'll go to where we can only test our friendship
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if we do a girls trip.
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So production in Texas, I want to know your last tweet.
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First off, this is a source subject.
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I had a Twitter for 10 years.
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I wanna say a month ago and I lost everything.
42:33
Everything an Australian pretending to be a Bitcoin investor
42:38
took over all my stuff and then everybody reported it.
42:40
Now it's just like no 1 10 years of my life, I'm not over it.
42:45
I think about tweeting.
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I'd be thinking of tweets and I'm like, oh tweeting, honestly
42:49
Twitter is not a great platform.
42:50
People being in your business is too much.
42:51
You can't even tweet one thing without getting dragged.
42:54
So now I have a private Twitter but then people started following
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So I don't want to tweet anymore.
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I was supposed to complain about, wait, can we talk about talk
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You're like, what is this, Rihanna?
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I really want to because you do look like Rihanna.
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But I'm curious, you went viral.
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You do look like Rihanna.
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I want to know what you went viral off of.
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So honestly, it is a back story.
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Thank you for asking.
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I actually am really hard on myself because I'm not good with
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You see me post, excuse me.
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Now I know how you feel.
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I went viral if you pull up the tiktok.
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Look at my friends like my mom, my mom said, don't let the haters
43:28
get to you, but I was talking about China there but don't put
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that in the podcast.
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Oh my God, I'm taking away question about social media and
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how you guys feel about you guys both influencers major.
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I'm not a major influencer.
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No, I'm just a great comedian.
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You just put your content out there and people I just I don't
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really consider in which you got 5 million views on your Rihanna
43:51
It was you on both videos.
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I was actually beating myself up because I feel like when you
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do internet content, you feel like you should capitalize
44:01
on pop culture events.
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I was like, I don't have anything for the Super Bowl.
44:04
This was my moment for people to think that I like Rihanna.
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Like walk and talk videos on my way to shows where I'm just talking
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or complaining about shit because that's my personality
44:14
and I was like, I just pretend to be Rihanna.
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Like I didn't even overthink it.
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So when I picked up my phone, I'm like, yo, what's up all these
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I'm like, yo, I viral.
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Do you think that as a comedian going viral is like something
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There's a lot of comedians out when you're ready because then
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I got super overwhelmed and I don't feel like I capitalized
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on the moment I wasn't ready for it.
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This is Brianna struggling to use a Metro card.
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But the, the reason why the video was so funny was because I
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I mean, was this the one in my life?
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It, it's just so many videos I'd be talking every day.
44:51
When you know that your videos doing numbers or you're going
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Do you get a little bit nervous?
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I only say this because I, for the most part, it's only my followers
44:59
that will see my stuff.
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But then the one time my videos have hit a million, 2 million
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on and Instagram, then you get an influx of people that don't
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follow, you don't know anything about you and then they just
45:09
go ham on you on your appearance on what you're saying.
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Just some haters, people that don't know anything about you
45:16
I thought that shit was hilarious.
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I'm like the fact that you can't read.
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That's not my problem because I never said I was Rihanna.
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You're the one that thought I was.
45:23
So I made a whole video of responding to the comments of like
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it's not my problem that you don't have media literacy skills
45:30
I can't teach you how to read because I remember I did a video
45:33
of me like pretending I was Selena Selena Quintanilla.
45:40
Let's pull that video and oh my God, so many people came at me
45:44
like look at this girl trying to think she's Selena, she's
45:48
passed away, let her rest.
45:50
And I'm like, I'm appreciating how did you get over that?
45:54
Because it seems like you took it personally.
45:56
I did at first and I'm like, you know what?
45:58
These are just some bored people that they just have so much
46:01
anger and hate in their heart and you have to realize a lot of
46:03
the times these haters are projecting their own shit on.
46:06
But a lot of people don't live life, they're just on the internet
46:09
So I don't think that a person that's kind of my life is not online
46:11
My life is on stage or right here, that's not my life.
46:16
So I, whenever I put something out, I'm like, you know what
46:19
whatever comes back engagement.
46:23
You're paying I think one time I was in a video, this is so personal
46:28
but I was in a video and I wasn't wearing a bra.
46:30
So someone said I had torpedo titties.
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Is that even mean my titties were kind of like impossible titties
46:39
and and that comment still stays with me.
46:43
We could pull it up.
46:44
But later it's a different network.
46:45
So I don't want to stay with you.
46:51
But I thought, I mean, that's why loving on yourself makes
46:54
a difference because at one point you're like, ok, whatever
46:57
it says more about you than it says about me.
46:59
But can I say something?
47:00
And that's why I'm actually having a backwards experience
47:02
Now, I'm starting to understand how social media works before
47:05
I was just like, when you go to my page, I'd really be talking
47:07
in third person like I'm mad delusional.
47:09
So I understand why people would be like, why are you lying
47:12
I'm like, because none of this is real.
47:13
This is comedy for me.
47:15
But for me, whenever I go on stage, I always say I have to feel
47:18
good before I go on stage because everyone might not like me
47:21
I have to be so confident.
47:23
One time I did a show and I was really insecure because I was
47:28
It's something that my, my weight fluctuates and I had said
47:31
something about Happy New Year, whatever.
47:32
And I set my resolution and somebody he was participating
47:36
But he was like, oh, you're going to go to the gym this year and
47:38
because I had walked out the house being insecure about that
47:40
I thought he was attacking me.
47:42
So IOD Ed on him, I was like, come on stage, I was so mad, but that's
47:46
why you have to own yourself before you post anything.
47:48
Everything I'm saying right now, I'm OK.
47:51
I'm living my life, I'm learning.
47:52
So if you want to criticize me, I'm OK to take the fee.
47:55
That's why the selfish era is so important because that's
47:57
when you build your confidence because I feel like a lot of
48:00
us, we build our confidence, we doing what we love to do.
48:03
And when we feel confident, you know, on stage, doing a show
48:07
or you're doing a ho you're hosting a, a game or hosting whatever
48:10
like you feel like, you know, you're worth and you're like
48:13
so nothing is not, not a little comment from some random guy
48:16
is not gonna affect you, ok?
48:18
On the internet that had no guts to do what you're doing, what
48:21
And now like back in the day we got that we value ourselves through
48:24
like people's comments like, oh they alike, they like us,
48:27
they like us and then that as easy as they liked us, one comment
48:31
But now doing the work being selfish in the sense of like doing
48:36
what we love gives us this confidence.
48:37
Like it doesn't matter what you say because I'm doing what
48:40
And also that inner monologue and having good friends like
48:42
you need to have good.
48:43
Have you ever read The untethered Soul?
48:45
No, but that sounds good.
48:46
It's a book that talks about the inner monologue, like your
48:49
And it says, like, imagine if that person was your roommate
48:53
and he's like that, that you're ugly.
48:57
Like, imagine if that person was sitting next to you saying
48:59
that to you, you would never hang out with the one that you like
49:02
you're, you're, you're a b you're negative and you're saying
49:05
imagine that and that's what we're doing to ourselves that
49:07
really make sure that that's really good.
49:10
The book I, so that was the only chapter I read.
49:17
You just giving out advice.
49:19
If you didn't read the whole, I was like, y you changed my life
49:23
You who are we hanging out with the most, every single day ourselves
49:27
Let's make it a pleasant experience.
49:30
Wake up every morning instead of looking at ourselves like
49:32
damn, I always look at myself in the mirror and I think to myself
49:35
I look like a raccoon.
49:36
I look like a crazy, don't give the people am ie and like, I,
49:47
that's just how we are going to put a picture up and now the comments
49:52
they like she kind of does it like that.
49:55
I love me like literally me in the mornings in my hood because
50:02
my mom who's home from Mexico doesn't want to turn on is dry
50:06
and I wake up in the morning.
50:08
No eyelashes, no lashes.
50:10
That's what I feel like you look like a naked mora.
50:14
But I sometimes I feel really pretty when I don't have makeup
50:22
No, when you're moisturized, it's like there's a beauty when
50:25
I see a woman with no makeup.
50:26
I'm like, wow, that's so refreshing.
50:27
Wait, wait, can you agree with me?
50:29
Have you guys ever walked into like a gas station or like a store
50:32
No makeup full blown bum, full blown.
50:35
I don't want to make eye contact with anybody but you get hit
50:43
You could see somebody fully without covering them.
50:46
When I am wearing full makeup, full glam.
50:48
Nobody will come up to me.
50:49
You'll get look, they think that you're like, no, no.
50:54
That's the same thing with curly hair and straight.
50:56
I straight my hair every day.
50:57
But any time I wear it curly, that's the only time people come
51:01
I'm like, I pay $50 once a week to get this and nobody says a damn
51:05
The second that I wake up with curly hair looking like a crazy
51:08
like sense Ivana, they like being natural is really beautiful
51:13
I just wanna make, I think this is a beautiful message but I'm
51:15
gonna continue wearing my makeup for all of this.
51:20
I don't really wear that much makeup.
51:22
When I go on stage, I want to make sure that when you see me, I'm
51:24
the same person, I'm going to get scared of.
51:26
I'm always wearing my and then see me see the opposite for me
51:30
I'd be looking crazy.
51:32
So I've never really been inside a gas station like that.
51:35
Only because I'm sorry, I don't drive from New York.
51:39
You don't have your license or a permit.
51:43
We're learning, you're moving to L A Uber and we talked about
51:49
something also like when you're becoming your full self in
51:51
your selfish era and your family that you most are close with
51:56
you have to cut some people off that aren't supporting you
51:59
Luckily, my family has been really supportive, but I have
52:02
cut up friends that I'm like or when I make new friends.
52:06
I'm very hesitant about letting them into my space.
52:08
I work so much on myself and I don't want to have to explain that
52:11
If I say, hey, I don't want to do this.
52:13
It's because I know that you're going to push me and I'm going
52:16
to have an attitude, then you're going to say I'm a moody gemini
52:18
and then I'll be mad at you and I have a whole process and I'm
52:20
like, I need some boundaries, I guess where it's like if I say
52:23
I don't want to talk about something, I want to talk about it
52:25
Yes, I've cut off so many friends in my twenties.
52:28
I don't talk to them.
52:29
I feel like with a Latina family you're really influenced
52:32
by your parents and your sisters and your whole life, you're
52:35
like, actually I won't do that.
52:37
I forgot that I have a cousin that did get on my nerves recently
52:41
But it's really, even if it's your own sister saying something
52:45
if you believe that you can do this, you need to forget about
52:49
that without disrespecting them.
52:50
You know what I mean?
52:50
I think family is the hardest.
52:53
If you don't have a solid family that they don't believe in
52:56
what you're doing, it can fuck with your mental, especially
52:59
these kind of careers where you really to do what we're doing
53:02
You have to believe in yourself so much and you have to have
53:05
such, it's not a linear career with.
53:08
You don't know what the output is in.
53:09
It's not like OK, my brother, for instance, he's a doctor.
53:11
You said linear and that's perfect because my brother is a
53:13
There are steps, you cannot move away from the system.
53:16
It's you at school, undergrad, grad test whatever.
53:19
Step one, step two and then you do your whole thing like internship
53:22
whatever for whatever we're doing, there is no blue print
53:26
there is no pathway.
53:28
You get this opportunity to kill it.
53:29
Hopefully you get referred to the next one.
53:31
Hopefully it is like up and down twisted one day, you're on
53:35
top of the world the next day, you feel like you're hitting
53:36
rock bottom, which we've all experienced multiple, multiple
53:39
And the thing about that is is that, you know, Latinos, I feel
53:42
like a lot of the times want something a little bit more secure
53:44
My brother is a doctor, my parents love that he's a doctor.
53:46
My other brother is a business owner, it is stable income.
53:48
And then me being woman on top of the fact that I'm a woman, they're
53:52
like, well, you're doing something that's kind of unstable
53:54
and they know that there's a lot of evilness that happens in
53:57
our industries and a lot of weird influences and they're scared
54:01
So they've always been super scared about me doing something
54:03
a little bit nontraditional.
54:04
You know what I mean?
54:05
When I went to high school I graduated and my dad's a doctor
54:08
too and in Latino families.
54:13
And so even though I knew I wanted to be an actress, it didn't
54:16
seem like a tan thing because there's no, like, steps to it
54:19
So I became a sports broadcaster.
54:21
I was like, OK, I'm gonna go to University of Miami.
54:22
I'm gonna study, I did sports for the past 10 years.
54:24
And then another thing I got hit by a car, I was on a bird on a scooter
54:28
I hit by a car until the 19 like 12 tables in my head.
54:32
I woke up and I was like, we gotta, I, I, I'm catching a break
54:37
If I say something wrong, it's because my head got hit a couple
54:39
But the truth is that when I got hit by the car, I was like, wait
54:42
life is really short and you have to really do what you love
54:45
no matter what anybody says because it's like, you have to
54:48
just do what you love and believe in it.
54:50
So I woke up from that thing and I was like, I'm done with sports
54:52
for a bit and I think for me, so I have this thing where I call
54:56
myself legendary and I was like, it's so obnoxious.
54:58
I'm like, you only have one.
54:59
I know it's so obnoxious, but you only have one life, you only
55:02
have one life, everything.
55:03
This is the only chance we get, you should do whatever you want
55:07
And it's kind of crazy because a lot of the times especially
55:09
being in the US, there's a lot of things wrong with the US.
55:11
We know that politically, right?
55:13
But in the grand scheme of things and how other countries operate
55:16
man, we have it so good we can move about how we please.
55:21
If you want to do career thing, you want to be the stay at home
55:23
why things can come and look at the end of the day, everybody's
55:27
going to have a bias against you no matter what you are, who
55:29
you are, the age, you are the sex, you are, it doesn't matter
55:33
You're going to, you're going to suffer no matter what path
55:37
you choose, you just have to choose to stay positive and know
55:40
Ok, if I really want something I'm going to go for it.
55:42
Is it going to be easy?
55:44
Is life supposed to be easy?
55:47
Nothing has ever come easy to anybody so hard.
55:50
But I'm having so much fun.
55:52
And I think the best part about doing this journey in entertainment
55:55
obviously, opportunities are great.
55:57
But the people that I meet have been so even right now, my best
56:02
friend is letting me stay with her and I was telling her, I feel
56:05
like I'm on an extended girls trip.
56:06
That's how it feels with you, ladies, with her.
56:09
Like I just feel like I'm a girls trip.
56:11
It feels a positive one because you know, it could go left.
56:14
But this was a good one.
56:15
It's starting off, right.
56:17
This is not Miami because you're on your path, you're on your
56:20
path, you're aligning with all the things and when you live
56:24
and you learn, right?
56:25
Like you're not going to be like this 10 years ago.
56:27
You are this way now because you're 33 and you're like, OK,
56:29
I'm going to stay on this path.
56:30
It feels good, like, and trust your intuition, but it takes
56:33
time to trust your intuition, you gotta go the test and then
56:36
you're like, oh, wait, my test was right.
56:39
I'm going to go hard on what I feel and you know what's crazy
56:42
And speaking of aligning is like, I know you wanted to do podcasts
56:45
It was something on all of our heart to do.
56:48
I was like, I'm going to do a podcast too.
56:49
And then it's crazy because again, like the power of whatever
56:52
it is, whoever you think the creator is, the source is for me
56:54
I just know like there was a reason why things happen when it
56:58
Like maybe it just wasn't my time in the past or it wasn't the
57:02
Everything happens for a reason.
57:04
And that's why I believe in just the right timing.
57:06
Even if you feel desperate, divine timing, the cheers to that
57:15
How do I feel like we talked about?
57:16
I was having a great time.
57:18
I feel like they were having a good time, but we have to wrap
57:21
this up and maybe talk about it in the next episode.
57:24
We have to wrap it up.
57:25
So everyone, if you liked what you heard, if you want to continue
57:28
the conversation, if you have things you want to talk about
57:30
that, you want us to unpack, please put them in the comments
57:34
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